Ksenia Trefilova — Trauma Therapist | Barcelona & Worldwide

Areas of work

What we can work on together

I work deeply, not quickly — with adults who are ready to face themselves. Not for quick fixes, but for real and lasting change.

Trauma & PTSD

Something from the past keeps bleeding into the present — your body, your relationships, the way you react. Trauma can change.

Identity & Transitions

You moved countries, left a relationship, changed careers. The person you were doesn't quite fit anymore. You're searching for who you're becoming.

Relationships

Patterns that repeat, love that feels complicated, boundaries that collapse. We explore how your inner world shapes every connection.

Neurodiversity

ADHD, autism, high sensitivity — navigating a world that wasn't designed for how you think and feel. You're not broken.

Addiction

Behind every addiction is a hungry heart. We work with the unmet need beneath the behaviour — with compassion and without judgment.

Burnout & Numbness

You're capable and functional — and completely exhausted. You've been strong for so long that you've lost the thread back to yourself.

Psychedelic Integration

A psychedelic experience can open doors you didn't know existed. Integration therapy helps you understand what it meant. ICEERS-trained.

Sexual Trauma

Slow, respectful, consent-based work. Restoring bodily dignity, reconnecting with self, separating your identity from what happened.

Expat Life & Belonging

Loss of identity after relocation, loneliness, code-switching exhaustion. I've lived in four countries. I know what it means to rebuild yourself with no map.

The process

How we begin

Starting therapy can feel like a big step — especially when you're already exhausted. Here's what to expect.

Free 30-min call

We meet to see if we're a good fit. No commitment, no pressure. You can ask anything.

First session

We begin to explore what's really happening beneath the surface — not just the symptoms, but the story beneath them.

Ongoing work

Real change takes time — but you'll notice something shifting within the first few sessions. We work at your pace.

"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are." — Carl Jung

About Ksenia

I became a therapist
the long way round.

For 17 years, I worked in international companies across Russia, Bali, Indonesia, Australia, and Spain. I was competent. I was also completely disconnected from myself.

I grew up between two countries — born in Russia, raised in Iran — in a family with strong expectations. The moment everything stopped was the moment things started to change.

"I'm a second-generation psychotherapist in my family. My grandmother was publicly elected by her community to mediate conflicts after WWII. She never had a diploma — she had the kind of wisdom people recognise and vote for."

When I couldn't find the depth I needed as a therapy client, I enrolled in university and studied it. Today I work in English and Russian — I know what it means to rebuild yourself in a foreign country, with no map.

I also co-founded AskFritz — a Gestalt-based AI dreamwork tool — because I believe deep self-exploration shouldn't require a waiting list. askfritz.chat →

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Credentials

Education & Training

My practice is built on rigorous training across multiple modalities — because different people need different approaches.

Moscow State Pedagogical University

Bachelor's degree · Secondary Education & Teaching · 2001–2007

East-European Psychoanalytical Institute

Diploma in Counseling Psychology · St. Petersburg · 2020–2023

InSight California Gestalt Therapy Group

Trauma & Addiction: Compassionate Relational Gestalt · 2024–2026

ICEERS

Altered States of Consciousness Integration · Spain · 2023–2024

Meta Institute Spain — Systemic Rituals

Training with Daan Van Kampenhout · 2023

Supporting People Leaving High-Control Groups

Identity Rebuilding · American Association

Methods I use

EMDR Gestalt Therapy Somatic Work Existential Analysis Systemic Constellations CBT Psychedelic Integration Bibliotherapy

Client stories

What people say

I began weekly sessions with Ksenia after working with another therapist for three years. I came in pretty pragmatic, thinking there wasn't much left to uncover. I couldn't have been more wrong. My relationships with my family began to shift — and somehow, even my income grew.

RobApril 2025

This period with Ksenia saw my heart rate variability improve drastically. I was happy to share this data with her — a level of engagement I had never experienced with a therapist before. Ksenia was always available and it felt like this was not just a job for her.

AdenApril 2024

To my own surprise, I was able to voice events from my past that were very traumatic and dark — which I had never been able to share with anyone before. This helped me feel more like myself and more courageous.

DannyJuly 2024

I started thinking about myself more — and that is good for me. I have become more resilient with my emotions. I am now capable of stopping unnecessary noise and focusing on what I really want.

NesMarch 2026

With your therapy I finished assimilating things I had been working on for a long time. After 6 years with another therapist I felt stuck. You helped me close what I couldn't close alone.

DaniJanuary 2025

I worked with Ksenia for almost six months. She was incredibly helpful in identifying my trauma and addictions — helping me distinguish what was truly mine from external influences.

MyriamJuly 2024

I went to the deepest holes of myself with Ksenia to discover my wholeness. Inner resources we found in the darkness of subconsciousness will stay with me forever.

ValentinaAugust 2023

Ksenia's sessions helped me navigate the different layers of my identity and how they show up in my life. If you are ready to delve deeper into yourself, she will support you in finding clarity.

ManalApril 2024

I had been living my life on autopilot for years. With her guidance I delved into the darkest corners of my mind and confronted the demons I had been hiding for most of my adult life. I have rediscovered my path.

RobertoOctober 2023

Working with Ksenia was the best choice I made. She helped me see my resources, skills, and strengths — and helped me grow my faith in myself. Now I am opening my own business.

DimitriOctober 2024

After the session it was the first time I actually slept relaxed and well in months. I did not take any meds. I feel good in my heart. Not euphoric — just well. Being is cool.

AnonymousJanuary 2024

После нескольких сессий с Ксенией в моём состоянии появился лёгкий прогресс. Я начал делать упражнения, которым она меня научила, и вижу — появляется просвет.

AlexeyFebruary 2024

The way you put things together is more help and ideas than I have gotten from anyone in the last 4 years. Thank you.

JazzMay 2025

Ksenia is an empathic, sensitive and caring person who thinks deeply and feels strongly. Her passion for understanding the human psyche is unbound — trust you are in good hands.

TaranaAugust 2023

My change would not have been possible without therapy with Ksenia.

RyanDecember 2025

You don't have to keepholding it all together.

If you feelthis inside…

What we can work on together

Trauma & PTSD

Identity & Transitions

Relationships

Neurodiversity

Addiction

Burnout & Numbness

Psychedelic Integration

Sexual Trauma

Expat Life & Belonging

How we begin

Free 30-min call

First session

Ongoing work

I became a therapistthe long way round.

Education & Training

Moscow State Pedagogical University

East-European Psychoanalytical Institute

InSight California Gestalt Therapy Group

ICEERS

Meta Institute Spain — Systemic Rituals

Supporting People Leaving High-Control Groups

What people say

Thoughts & reflections

Behind Every Addiction Is a Hungry Heart

Black and White, and Sex

Oh… is this Love?

Finding Myself in the Chaos: One Story of ADHD

When Helping Hurts: Escaping Codependent Love

"You Can't Possibly Love Me": Healing the Unlovable Wound

Blending In or Fading Out: Immigration, Identity, and the Cost

The Art of Joy

Life, Interrupted: Living with Epilepsy

Who Gets to Speak? The Quiet Power Games We All Play

"I'm Not That Kind of Person": Silent Success Sabotage

The Healing Power of Example: Why Watching Others Recover Changes Us

How Many Dates Before Sex? Honest Talk

Tough But Trapped? The Hidden Cost of 'Being a Man'

Life Without the Voice in Your Head: Superpower or Curse?

What Lies Beneath Our Sudden Impulses

Waking Up vs. Growing Up: The Great Confusion of Spiritual Awakening

Neurodiversity: My Auditory Dyslexia

Secrets to Achieving Any Goal

Please Hold: What to Do with Uncertainty in Communication?

Let's find outif we're a good fit.

You don't have to keep
holding it all together.

If you feel
this inside…

I became a therapist
the long way round.

Let's find out
if we're a good fit.